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| Nov 22, 2005 1:19 pm |
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re: Why Do Men Lie to Women? |
Robin Mathew Cherian
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Okay, okay..Truce...Sorry did not post earlier...But here's what i think...I do't know if it has anything to do with cultures but i should presume not.
Men like to be accepted. Especially by women they are wooing or trying to woo. Around such a lady, the guy will be the entertainer, Prince Charming and everything he is not in order to impress. A lie is not in just words but also in what you portray when you are with a lady whom you want to have. So if you are not yourself then you are living a lie. Why did i say insecurity? All men feel, believe it or not, a little unsure of their worthiness to be the ideal man for their woman. So we try to portray to the lady a person who is all that she wants. We look out for clues in her words and behaviour and change our behaviour and actions to suit her needs. Now i am not against this. It is good but you need to sustain the same even after marriage. There is no point in becoming your true self after marrying the lady or after having got what you've wanted from her.
I believe most of the divorces happen because of the false self portrayal by men during courtship. Then what follows is what Alan mentioned - Men will crave to be their own self, do their own thing and will have to lie to just have those few moments when they can enjoy doing things their spouses wouldn't approve.
Do i make sense?
Cheers! Private Reply to Robin Mathew Cherian (new win) |
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